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Talking to Kids About Tragedy

Children don’t think exactly like adults. When discussing this week’s shooting at an Ohio high school, deadly severe storms or other tragedies with children, it’s important to take special care. Carrie Little, program coordinator/educator at Family & Children’s Services, has tips to help parents talk to their children about tragedy.

 

 

 

 

Need professional help in dealing with trauma in your child’s life? We can help. Click here to learn more about trauma treatment services at Family & Children’s Services.

New Ideas in Health Care Benefit Clients, Entire Community – By Dianne Hughes, Program Director, Case Management and Special Projects

We hear a lot these days about the poor state of health in Oklahoma as compared to the rest of the nation. Perhaps you’ve also heard the news that people diagnosed with a serious mental illness are at a higher risk of premature death. Earlier this month, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration/Health Resources Services Administration Center for Integrated Health Solutions explained that these premature deaths are “largely due to complications from untreated, preventable chronic illnesses like obesity, hypertension, diabetes, and cardiovascular disease, which are aggravated by poverty-driven health choices, like poor nutrition, lack of exercise, and smoking.”

We at Family & Children’s Services are acutely aware of this problem. Many of our clients don’t have a regular medical doctor. They use the emergency room for their health care or, sadly, forgo needed medical attention. Through a partnership with the George Kaiser Family Foundation and Morton Comprehensive Health Services, Family & Children’s Services took a bold step to help improve the health of our clients by opening a medical clinic in October 2011 inside the Sarah & John Graves Center.  

Currently, the clinic operates one day a week and is available for adults receiving mental health services from Family & Children’s Services. Clinic patients may also receive free medication as prescribed by a Morton medical provider. Patients receive treatment for colds and other minor complaints and serious, chronic illnesses such as high blood pressure and diabetes.

So, can one day a week really help? By mid-February, 281 clients had been seen during the clinic’s 16 operating days. Over 70 percent of those served said they didn’t have a primary care physician and, instead, used to visit hospital emergency rooms for care. More than 20 percent didn’t seek care when sick. But now, these individuals have a resource for getting treatment and, just as important, managing their wellness.

The direct impact on our clients and their loved ones is evident. However, our community as a whole benefits, too, through less crowded emergency rooms and lower health care costs. 

Mental Illness Impacts 1 in 5 Americans, report shows

A new national report reveals that 45.9 million American adults aged 18 or older, or 20 percent of this age group, experienced mental illness in the past year. The rate of mental illness was more than twice as high among those aged 18 to 25 (29.9 percent) than among those aged 50 and older (14.3 percent). Adult women were also more likely than men to have experienced mental illness in the past year (23 percent versus 16.8 percent).

 

To read the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s full news release on the study, click here.

Fun & Free Time Together as a Family

Too often, parents find themselves caught in a game of “gimme” with their children – as in, “Gimme this, Mom.” or “Dad, can you gimme a new video game?” However, how much money you spend on your kids matters less than how much time you spend with them.

Tulsa World Blogger Natalie Mikles has some fantasic ideas for spending time together as a family free or on the cheap. We have a few other suggestions:

Have a board game night. Younger children can be paired up with older kids or parents. Reading game cards reinforces language skills, and moving the pawn and handling money helps with mathematics.

Channel Scheherezade, the fabled Persian storyteller. She told a story that lasted 1,001 nights, ending each night’s session on a suspenseful note. Let every member of the family have an opportunity to tell part of the story you create together.

Go dancing without the stars. Turn on some music and cut a rug on your own rug. It’s a great way to get some exercise and is likely to leave everyone giggling.

Stage your own “Chopped” challenge. Set out an array of motley ingredients, start a timer and tell your little chef to create a culinary masterpiece. Plan to be on hand to help younger children with cutting and any cooking required, but let their creativity guide the final product.

 

 

Do Your Part — By Carrie Little, Family Life Education Program Coordinator

“He isn’t even trying anymore.”

“She doesn’t care.”

 

Sound familiar?  If so, you are not alone.  Many couples go through times when one or both feel that they are the only one “working” on the relationship.  It becomes frustrating to reflect on your relationship and see only those things that you do to make your relationship work.  It can become a habit to focus only on those things that your partner ISN’T doing.  When this habit forms it is likely that other bad habits form in its wake, including bouts of escalation when trying to discuss issues with your partner, or starting sentences that begin with, “You never… ” or “You always… .”

Especially if you have children together, it is important to find ways of relating to one another without damaging your closeness.  One way to begin this process is called “Do Your Part.”  This concept relies greatly on your ability to look closely at your thoughts and actions to bring about change in your relationship.  In other words, in every situation, find a way to do the best you can.  Whether that be choosing not to yell and scream, or choosing to do something nice for your partner even in times of irritation. 

This does not mean you can change your relationship on your own.  It takes two to make a relationship work over time.  However, if both you and your partner begin a daily practice of “Do Your Part,” the need for each to focus on the other’s bad behavior will cease.  This involves trust.  You have to trust that your partner is doing everything he or she can to make your relationship and family life work, and vice versa.  This also involves a lot of respect and kindness, both toward yourself and your partner.

“Do Your Part” can change the tone of your relationship.  You will begin to process events in a different way.  Instead of automatically going toward the one thing your partner did wrong, you will be thinking in “I” statements instead.  Like, “What could I have done to make that conversation better?”  or, “What could I do today to make my relationship stronger?” 

 

If you would like to learn more about “Do Your Part,” and other concepts and skills to make your relationship strong, Family & Children’s Services offers a free class called Forever. For Real. In this class, couples learn together the skills needed to create a lasting and loving partnership.

Calling All Retailers: Clear Your Racks!

Family & Children’s Services is asking local retailers to clear their racks. The agency’s popular warehouse sale fundraising event is just around the corner – and merchandise is needed!

F&CS will host its ninth annual Abersons & Friends Warehouse Sale on March 28-30, 2012, at its central office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue. Proceeds of the sale will help F&CS provide counseling, treatment and support services to children who’ve been abused, families in crisis and individuals faced with overwhelming problems or mental illness.

Local merchants can support the effort by donating unsold stock – including home décor, housewares; women’s, men’s and children’s clothing; accessories and more – to F&CS. The agency will coordinate pick up from stores. Participating merchants may take a tax deduction for any items they donate, will be listed in promotional materials and – best of all! – will have more room on their racks to display the latest spring merchandise. 

Nearly 35 stores and hundreds of bargain-loving shoppers participated in last year’s Abersons & Friends Warehouse Sale. To get more information or schedule a pick up date, contact Rochelle Dowdell, the F&CS special events coordinator, at 918.560.1115 or rdowdell@fcsok.org.

Bikes for Tykes Donates 250 Bicycles to Family & Children’s Services

A Christmas giveaway of bicycles to Family and Children’s Services has grown ten-times over the last seven years. Yesterday, Humble Sons Bike Company donated 250 bikes and helmets to Family & Children’s Services’ clients this Christmas.  Two Men and a Truck handled much of the heavy lifting and delivered the three trucks full of bicycles. The first year, Bikes for Tykes donated 22 bicycles.

“It’s a great feeling. Obviously the whole point of doing this is to help kids out, and for kids that might not be getting anything for Christmas, to get a bicycle is a wonderful thing,” said Tommy Chavez, Humble Sons Bike Company. Asbury United Methodist Church also donated 200 brand new coats to Family and Children’s Services through the second year of its Project Sugar Coating.

Watch the News on 6 story here

We are continuing to accept donations for Holiday Assistance. Click here to learn more.

WIR Graduate Opens New Door Thanks to Habitat for Humanity

Watch this News on 6 story as Women in Recovery graduate Crystal Kravis and her family enter their new Habitat for Humanity home for the first time.

There was a time happiness and bright future seemed far away. Crystal’s family was broken by hopelessness and drug addiction. Crystal was in despair and facing incarceration and her children were facing a chaotic future Thankfully, Family & Children’s Services’ Women in Recovery (WIR) program, which is operated in partnership with George Kaiser Family Foundation, was there to provide hope, the courage to change and a path to recovery, ending the generational cycle of trauma and addiction. As she opens a new door in her new home she knows WIR is truly life changing.

Learn more about Women in Recovery program

How can I get involved?

 

8-Year-Old Donates Birthday Presents to Family & Children’s Services

We salute 8 year old Liam Workman! His generous spirit and kind heart show us that kids really care. In lieu or presents, this little guy decided that for his 8th birthday he would like to collect donations for Family & Children’s Services. His invitation noted that Family & Children’s Services was in need of preschool toys, formula, diapers, children’s books, coloring books, crayons and HUGS (hats, underwear, gloves and socks). When asked why he chose to give, rather than receive for his birthday, Liam said, “This is for the kids that don’t have anything. I have plenty of things.”

Liam’s mom, Kelly, explained that their family has long supported Family & Children’s Services. “There is such a great need, with so many parents working hard to just to make ends meet. We are teaching Liam the value of giving back, to bless others and give thanks for what we have.”

Liam’s donated presents are stocking the 2014 Family & Children’s Services Santa Shop. If you would like to make the holidays brighter, please contact us.

 

Liam Bday Gifts

8 year old Liam Workman donated his birthday

presents to Family & Children’s Services Santa Shop.

WinterFest Breakfast with Santa Benefits F&CS

Saturday’s Breakfast with Santa at Arvest WinterFest brought a a taste of the North Pole to Tulsa. Guests enjoyed a delicious breakfast, visits with Santa, face painting and more.

This year’s Breakfast with Santa was presented by BlueStone Natural Resources, a proud partner of Family & Children’s Services. Bluestone encouraged all guests to bring a donation of HUGS (hats, underwear, gloves and scarves) and the response was overwhelming.

Our thanks to BlueStone Natural Resources and all the guests who shared holiday HUGS.

Pictured: Denise and John Redmond with their children, Katie, Abby, Emma and Jake.

Winter Fest Family

 

 

 

YWCA 100 Women of Moxie Honor F&CS CEO Gail Lapidus

[mok-see] noun
1. vigor; verve; pep.
2. courage and aggressiveness; nerve.
3. skill; know-how.

YWCA Tulsa celebrates 100 bold years by honoring 100 extraordinary Tulsa Women with Moxie. In their Centennial year, the YWCA is recognizing 100 trailblazers, hidden heroes and leading ladies. The honorees are women from yesterday and today; they are women from inside and outside the YWCA’s network; they represent a diversity of experience, background, and thought; but they each have made an impact on YWCA’s mission to eliminate racism, empower women and promote peace, justice, freedom and dignity for all.

Congratulations to F&CS CEO Gail Lapidus for her recognition as one of the distinguished 100 Women of Moxie.

GL Moxie
Les Lapidus, Lydia Lapidus, Gail Lapidus

F&CS Holiday Assistance Featured on Tulsa’s Channel 8

Give overburdened families the happiest of holidays this year by donating to the Family & Children’s Services Santa Shop. Our elves have requested:

  •       Toys, books and games for children of all ages, plus gifts for teens
  •       Clothing, coats, pajamas and HUGS (hats, underwear, gloves and socks)
  •       Small household items and toiletries
  •       Monetary donations for gift/ grocery cards

To learn more about Family & Children’s Services and how you can make a difference, watch the complete interview on Tulsa’s Channel 8′s “Good Day Tulsa”.

For more information, call 918.560.1115 or email holidayassistance@fcsok.org. We welcome donations at 650 South Peoria through Monday, December 15, 2014.

#GivingTuesday Kicks Off Holiday Giving Season

Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, and Cyber Monday are synonymous with holiday shopping. Now, make room for #GivingTuesday which is dedicated to giving back this holiday season.

Giving Tuesday was founded in 2012 by New York City’s 92nd Street Y as a way to focus on nonprofits and those who work to help others following the Black Friday and Cyber Monday shopping events. Since its inception, the movement has engaged more than 10,000 organizations worldwide.

Every day, Family & Children’s Services is honored to have the opportunity to make a positive difference in the lives of thousands children and families across metro Tulsa. Join us and help traumatized and hurting children, strengthen individuals and families, and provide hope and recovery for those battling mental illness and addiction.

Your gift, no matter the size, makes a difference on #GivingTuesday. You can donate HERE.

Or spread the holiday cheer and adopt a family or stock our Santa Shop. For more information, call 918.560.1115 or email holidayassistance@fcsok.org. We welcome donations at 650 South Peoria through Monday, December 15, 2014.

Our elves have requested:

  •       Toys, books and games for children of all ages, plus gifts for teens
  •       Clothing, coats, pajamas and HUGS (hats, underwear, gloves and socks)
  •       Small household items and toiletries
  •       Monetary donations for gift/ grocery cards

 

On behalf of the clients we serve, we thank you. #GivingTuesday

A big heart like yours can make all the difference to an overburdened family this holiday season.

By adopting a Family & Children’s Services family in need, you’ll provide everything from necessities, to gifts, to hope. You can give in other ways too:

  • Toys, books and games for children of all ages
  • Clothing, coats, pajamas and HUGS (hats, underwear, gloves and socks)
  • Small household items and toiletries
  • Monetary donations

- See more at: http://www.fcsok.org/contribute/holidayassistance/#sthash.s3T9Kwoi.dpuf

A big heart like yours can make all the difference to an overburdened family this holiday season.

By adopting a Family & Children’s Services family in need, you’ll provide everything from necessities, to gifts, to hope. You can give in other ways too:

  • Toys, books and games for children of all ages
  • Clothing, coats, pajamas and HUGS (hats, underwear, gloves and socks)
  • Small household items and toiletries
  • Monetary donations

- See more at: http://www.fcsok.org/contribute/holidayassistance/#sthash.s3T9Kwoi.dpuf

F&CS Partners with LIBR for Important Brain Research

The Laureate Institute for Brain Research (LIBR) has partnered with Family & Children’s Services to understand how the brain functions in adults with neuropsychiatric disorders to improve mental health. Research studies aim to discover the biological basis for psychiatric disorders such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder and Major Depressive Disorder. MRIs will make images of the brain and these images will help researchers understand how the brain processes emotion, memory, motivation and stress.

Jill Young, F&CS Chief Program Office Adult Outpatient Mental Health Services, says, “The goal is that through brain scan results and research we can develop specific treatment pathways which lead to earlier intervention and an improved recovery rate.”

Journalism Center for Children & Families Spotlights WIR

Women in Recovery (WIR) opened it’s doors to journalist Molly Ginty this summer. She spent days observing WIR participants and the social workers who are dedicated to changing the lives of women in the program. WIR Executive Senior Director Mimi Tarrasch reflects, ” This accounting effectively captures the commitment and strong clinical skills of our social workers as well as their humor and spirit.”

To read the complete article, click on http://www.humansafetynet.com. Next, click “Our Stories” on the upper right hand corner and click on the women in a group talking.

TAUW Raises $26.6 Million, Exceeds Campaign Goal

Thursday was an evening of celebrating as the  Tulsa Area United Way unveiled the largest funding campaign result in its 90-year history. The Tulsa World reports that the agency raised $26,602,884, exceeding its goal of $26,200,00, the biggest goal in its history.

Family & Children’s Services CEO Gail Lapidus was on hand as the record-breaking campaign result was announced at the annual “Unite!” event, held at the Schusterman Learning Center on the campus of the University of Oklahoma-Tulsa.

“Family & Children’s Services helps 1 in 6 Tulsans each year. We heal traumatized and hurting children, strengthen individuals and families, and provide hope and recovery for those battling mentall illness and addiction. Our strong relationship with Tulsa Area United Way truly makes this possible, ” said Lapidus. This year, Family & Children’s Services raised a record-setting $114,423. The Tulsa World reports “Nonprofit organizations, including the Tulsa Area United Way’s 61 partner agencies, raised a record $915,053, and the Tulsa Area United Way posted a record $160,000 for its own employee campaign, helping the local United Way to lead its peers nationally in giving by nonprofit organizations.”

Read complete Tulsa World article here